Date: December 09, 2024 at 14:03:28 From: pamela, [DNS_Address] Subject: Re: anyone heard from eve?
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Date: December 09, 2024 at 13:50:53 From: shadow, [DNS_Address] Subject: Re: anyone heard from eve?
I had nothing to do with Eve and sher leaving, Jeff, and I know you know that...the sequence of events went just as I said, very easy to see for yourself on Dreams...
Date: December 12, 2024 at 14:03:08 From: Awen, [DNS_Address] Subject: Re: This is probably the third time I posted this to you
I'd assume that if Eve was going to be offended by anyone on the board, it would have been me long before Shadow.
That was a weird situation, as we truly didn't get along, but I tried to extend an olive branch, Eve would then proceed to thoroughly attack me and I'd get defensive and attack right back, usually escalating (although I was usually TRYING initially to de-escalate before finally losing my own temper) because I don't take that level of complete misinterpretation well (and she doesn't either, given the number of times I misinterpreted her posts).
I still say that for all that we differ ideologically (though not as much as Eve seems to want to believe), we seem to be lost twins in terms of our ways of reacting and responding to interpersonal conflicts. I so often always felt like I was in a conflict with another part of myself with her.
She...didn't see it that way and was offended that I'd dare make that comparison.
Date: December 12, 2024 at 14:10:56 From: Awen, [DNS_Address] Subject: Re: This is probably the third time I posted this to you
...accidentally hit post before I was done.
I do hope she's OK, I really wanted her to succeed with a lot of what she was saying, just wished she'd tone down her extremism because I know from....basically who I am and my own foundational personality flaws that our extreme reactions do nothing to actually promote our respective causes.
That and I know at the end she was upset with me because I have strong memories of a past interaction on this board that she says she has no memory of.
Main point is...if anyone inadvertently drove her off, judging by her reactions to me I'm pretty sure I'm unfortunately the one at fault, for reasons that...well, the escalations I understand might drive a person off, but I never did understand how she got the initial horrible misinterpretations of my INITIAL posts to start with.
I feel bad if it was me, but by the same token, given the level of misunderstanding and bickering on both sides, and my being as offended with her reactions to me as she was with her misinterpretations of posts that were meant in many (by no means all, I'll admit) cases to be supportive, I can't quite bring myself to apologize.
Do hope she comes back. I was toward the end avoiding interaction with her as much as possible because I could see that she was unable hear the posts for what they actually meant and I was doing more harm than good to both of us in my attempts to make amends that just resulted in more pain and bickering between both of us.
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Date: December 09, 2024 at 17:50:47 From: shadow , [DNS_Address] Subject: Re: This is probably the third time I posted this to you
...really? Oh...well, what a shame I don't remember those other two times...I might've been able to anticipate that this is what you'd have to say, spare you the third effort...? *eyeroll*
Ah, Jeffie. You really do live in the dark ages, don't you?
Bless your heart.
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Date: December 09, 2024 at 06:52:51 From: shadow , [DNS_Address] Subject: Re: anyone heard from eve?
Maybe Pamela is in touch with Eve, to know more specifically...but Eve left the same time as sher, ryan, back when you noted how the Dreams board was becoming like the Groans board, with so many stream-of- consciousness-type posts between them there...rather than what you'd intended, I guess...
They both left EB immediately, seemed to take it personally, which I unsuccessfully tried to dissuade...not a surprise, since I'd often crossed words w/Eve...and I think sher mostly left in support of Eve leaving...
My impression was that Eve just felt too much of "The Enemy's" presence around here, with that change to the Dreams board thwarting their dialogue...